Dr Bhagavan Antle of The Institute of Greatly Endangered and Rare Species (T.I.G.E.R.S), photographs 4 varieties of Bengal tigers
And then there’s Kenny
Wow this is the most disturbing bit of rape culture I’ve seen all day
This is so fucking repulsive this is seriously a fucking tip sheet for abusers holy fuck no
MAKE SURE THEY CRY AND THEN GIVE THEM ALCOHOL AFTERWARD SO THEY THINK YOU STILL LOVE THEM this is fucking disgusting what the FUCK
I think I’m gonna be sick
"Make sure it ends in tears." That’s not love.
"aftercare" is literally grooming your abused, emotionally traumatised partner into a state of comfort so that you can abuse them again
i hate this world
"Rape culture" "abuse" "trauma" ???????? ?? ? ?? ? ???? ? ?
Are yoU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!!? This is a guideline for couples who ENJOY spanking in their relationship, for a wide variety of reasons, like the fact that it’s a KINK!!!!!! IT’S CONSIDERED A PART OF BDSM CULTURE!!!! Notice the very first image says "CONSENTING ADULTS ONLY!!!" THIS IS NOT ABUSE, THIS IS FETISH!!!
THE “AFTERCARE” THAT YOU ARE BITCHING ABOUT IS A **N.E.C.E.S.S.A.R.Y.** PART OF ANY SCENES OR PLAYS THAT A COUPLE PARTICIPATES IN!!! IT’S LITERALLY WHERE YOU TAKE CARE OF AND LOVE ON YOUR PARTNER THAT WAS PUT THROUGH ANY STRESSING ACTS DURING THE SCENE!!!! IT’S A VERY IMPORTANT THING THAT EVERY HEALTHY BDSM RELATED SCENARIO SHOULD END IN!!!!!!!!
OH MY GOD, CAN SOMEONE THAT HAS A MORE EXTENSIVE KNOWLEDGE OF ALL THIS EXPLAIN IT IN MORE DETAIL FOR ME PLEASE?? I AM TOO ANGRY TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO DO IT!!!!!!
I am going to scream bloody murder if people don’t stop trying to equate consensual BDSM with abuse/rape. BDSM. IS. CONSENSUAL. That isn’t to say that abusers, rapists, etc., don’t end up in the BDSM scene, but any Dom/Top worth a fuck, shit, or damn will exensively discuss kinks, limits, etc., with their sub/bottom. They will come up with safewords, procedures, and the like. They will check in with their sub/bottom frequently during the scene, to ensure their sub/bottom is okay and wants to continue, and to know when to take a break.
PROPER BDSM IS CAREFULLY STRUCTURED TO ENSURE IT IS SAFE, CONSENSUAL, AND ENJOYABLE FOR ALL PARTIES INVOLVED.
And as the person above me pointed out, aftercare is VITALLY important. BDSM can be seriously intense, physically, and emotionally. For some people, it’s cathartic. Subs/bottoms can drop hard from the emotional high of the scene, whether it’s a beating/spanking or something else entirely. It is the Dom/Top’s responsibility to provide cuddles, reassurance, massages, hot baths, first aid, water, chocolate, and basically whatever the sub/bottom needs to physically and emotionally level back out.
How fucking DARE you all equate BDSM with abuse and rape, WHEN MANY OF US INVOLVED IN BDSM ARE ABUSE, RAPE, AND ASSAULT SURVIVORS OURSELVES.
You disgust me, for fucking attacking the practices of consenting adults when there’s actual rape culture shit you could be focusing on! Especially since you’re fucking assuming this is taking place with a female bottom/sub and male Top/Bottom. Not only is that far from always the case, it’s none of your fucking business! You don’t get to fucking tell women what they can and can’t do in bed.
And one final comment, just because I’m a pedantic, spiteful prick full of righteous fury right now: SINCE WHEN IN FUCK’S NAME DOES ALCOHOL COME OUT OF A TEA KETTLE!?
EDIT: For what I basically just said with a little less capslock, bolding, and fury, please see this post.
Dude there is literally a fucking stamp in the corner that says “consenting adults only.”
Hey look it’s the magic word CONSENT.